Through My Mothers Eyes ...... Vayden's Story: My We've Come So Far

Sunday, January 23, 2011

My We've Come So Far

20 months without you sweet Vayden, I can't believe it's been almost 2yrs. I look at myself, my life, and my marriage and I see how so much has changed. I am a different person, I am still far from perfect but I am better. I have grown up since losing you. It's amazing to see the person I was compared to the person I am today. I thank you for it all, even my crazy germaphobe, and untrustworthy ways. Sure now days almost no one is allowed to babysit your brothers but I guess because of you I'm more aware.

I miss you everyday and wish you were here to join your brothers, I get to tell your story so much more now because people often ask if I want to try a "third" time for a girl. I reply "no this is my third" and then your story is told. You will continue to touch the hearts of so many people. But your family you will live in our hearts forever.

I love you so much Vayden

Happy 20th Heavenly Month baby boy.

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Sarita BoyetteJanuary 24, 2011 at 12:05 AM
Keep on telling that sweet story, Stephanie! I'm so proud of you - people need to hear about our Very Own Angels. Sending love & hugs....
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JENNIFER LAWRENCEJanuary 25, 2011 at 1:09 PM
I have read your entire blog since the birth of your Angel baby- I never ever imagined losing a child would be so painful, but I experienced it myself on January 15, 2011 (my birthday as well) I was only 18 weeks pregnant but already in love with my lil skooter- my son had a NTD and would have ever survived, God put things into motion by my water breaking on 1/13/11 and then going into labor on 1/14/11, my doctor sent me to OU Med Center knowing that I would have to deliver my lifeless little baby. We had a wonderful nurse Lori, who I consider an angel here on earth. She took such care of our angel Derek Layne an helped us through this horrible moment. She gave me my angel bear and I must say he is very tear soaked but such a blessing to have a hold. You are an inspiration and I will keep your family in my prayers and know that our Angels are watching over us each and every day. Bless you and your family of 5!
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HollyJanuary 25, 2011 at 4:49 PM
You are an inspiration, Stephanie! love you!
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What is a Lower Urinary Tract Obstruction (LUTO)?

Fetal lower urinary tract obstruction (LUTO) is a rare condition that is caused by a blockage of fetal urination. Because the baby cannot empty the bladder, the baby’s bladder subsequently becomes very large and inflated. Also, because the amniotic fluid is essentially composed of the baby’s urine beyond the middle of the second trimester, the bag of waters dries up. A cascade of secondary effects result in significant morbidity and/or mortality for the baby. This includes problems to the urinary collection system (hydronephrosis) and kidneys (renal dysplasia) attributed to the backpressure from the urinary blockage. Underdevelopment of the lungs (pulmonary hypoplasia) develops from the lack of amniotic fluid during a critical time of the pregnancy.
The cause of fetal LUTO is varied. The most common cause in male fetuses is posterior urethral valves (membrane blocks the flow of urine from the bladder). Oligohydramnios (low amniotic fluid volume defined as the maximum vertical pocket less that or equal to 2.0 centimeters) may then develop, and is associated with a worse prognosis. In females the most common cause is urethral atresia (a body orifice or passage in the body is abnormally closed or absent). Other causes of fetal LUTO include but are not limited to obstructive ureterocele (area between the tube that carries urine from the kidneys to the bladder), urethral stricture (abnormal narrowing of the urethra) or agenesis (absence of), persistent cloaca (a defect in which the rectum, vagina, and urinary tract are fused together into a single common channel), and megalourethra (congenital dilation of the urethra). The ultrasound findings of many of these conditions are similar, and it is often difficult to differentiate the cause of the urinary obstruction until after delivery.
Because there are different causes of LUTO, the prognosis can be expected to be different depending on the individual diagnosis. However, a major component that dictates perinatal outcome is the secondary complications of the obstruction (renal dysplasia and pulmonary hypoplasia). To prevent these complications, several methods have been developed to bypass the blockage of urine while the baby is still in the womb, with the hope that the backpressure on the kidneys can be averted and the amniotic fluid volume may replenish to allow for more normal lung development.
Frequency
Significant lower urinary tract obstruction can be found in 1 in 500 pregnancies.

http://www.fetalhope.org/fetal-lower-urinary-tract-obstruction-luto.html

Just a few of the Wonderful Comments ppl have left

you are VERY welcome...i know everything will work out.if anyone is strong enough its you. i would have done anything. and Vashon was wonderful! miracles happen all the time and remember things happen so you can learn from them. You know how stubborn Vashon was when you were pregnant with him and look at him now.Don't stress...i have faith!!! its gonna work out! you know i would do anything for you!i love you! see you tomorrowtext me if you need anything!
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I am sure everything will be ok. We are praying for ya'll. I am sure everything will work because that is the only way Zaire and Zahara is going out. With Vashon and ???(Stewart give that lil man his own name)....Plus, if they try anything funny with my girls' I get can you and Stewart to whooping them. On the real. Keep praying, I am sure the Lord's will will be done. Call us if ya'll need anything. Love ya'll....Quince family.....

I Just want to tell you...that you are so inspiring to me...as a young first time mom...I can look up to strong women like you!! Your beautiful and strong faith in our Lord and savior only strengthens my relationship and walk with God. I hope you know you have touched my life with your passion. I am praying for you, your family and your precious lo TIFFYB20

Your words, as hard as I'm sure they are for you to write, are truly inspirational. You are so beautiful and strong and amazing. I continue to pray for you, your son and your family. May God bless all of you. LYNDSAYWVU
I agree, you are an incredibly inspirational woman. I will continue to pray for you and your family. God works miracles. That little guy just may be one. We've missed you too. Remember we are all here when you need us. MALIBUALR

I can't describe how I feel when I read this. On one hand I am truly inspired at how well you are handling this and what a faithful person you are and on the other hand my heart is just breaking. Thanks for keeping us posted. I think about you all the time. BABYSU

I am crying reading your post but that doesnt mean I have lost faith. The reasons and the will of God will be made clear to you and it will take all of your energy,strength, understanding, love, and support, to get through this but I have no doubt you will, no doubt at all. Deep meditative prayer will guide to what you will need to do whats best for your baby and yourself and your family. BABYPHAT2008

I just have to say again that you are an amazing woman BrownSugar. Anybody who knows you is very lucky to have you in their lives :) ISLANDMUM

I applaud your strength and admire your courage. You are in essence the quintessential example of what a mother truly is. I am sending you love and strength of spirit. SKIP23

I am in tears for you. There are just no words. Vayden is a very special boy and so lucky to be loved so tremendously. You have every right to feel the way you do. Nobody can know what it's like to have to make such a difficult decision until it happens to them but you continue to show a tremendous amount of strength and love for your Vayden. I don't even know you but my heart aches so badly for you. You and Vayden are and will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers. DMOMMY2BE

Im sorry that you have to go through this...nothing we tell you can make you feel better and I definitely understand why u don't wanna hear the "GOD stuff" I wouldn't wanna hear it either especially because I've never understood the fact that he put the ability in us to have children then takes them away so easily..I'm sorry I usually never pray but I will tonight for you. WNDRLNDCHICK

I agree with everyone you are very strong momma, hold this little one tight while you have him. I will be praying for you & for strength.. I saw this and thought I would share incase you havn't seen it.. ***An angel opened the book of life and wrote down your baby's birth. Then she closed the book and whispered: "too beautiful for earth". ~author unknown *** I know this is a sad sad thing.. you have every right to be angry.. Please remember we love you, and you can vent or cry or just talk whenever you need us.. we WILL be here for you.. always. MOMMACLARK

MommaClark, that quote you found is truly the best thing I've heard so far aside from my mother telling me that Vayden is going to be up there taken care of by a wonderful woman who was never able to have children. But it brought me to happy tears and I will stick with the for the remainder of the pregnancy and following letting him go home BROWNSUGAR07 aka Stephanee (me)

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My We've Come So Far

3 comments:

A Mothers Love Will Never Die

Grab My Button

The Stewart Family 2009

About Me

31 weeks Waiting with Vayden

Blog Archive

What is a Lower Urinary Tract Obstruction (LUTO)?

Vayden with his parents

Other Families Affected By LUTO or PUV

Helpful Webisties

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You are safe with God

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