Tuesday, October 20, 2009

I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant

Ever seen that show??? I have watched it many times and as honest as these women seem and I try to give them the benefit of the doubt, I personally don't see how anyone can go full term without kinda knowing something was different. I mean, I've had some contraction like gas before, but I know the difference.

Why am I writing about this show? PREGNANT I am not, that would be a true shock and surprise to my husband who is deployed right now. I'm writing because pregnancy is everywhere around me, my husband wants me to be pregnant, my close friends on base are all pregnant, people keep asking me when I'm going to try again, and every now and then I think "I better just get this over with", because I find myself making plans that don't include a new little person, and lets face it Vashon as a 2 yr old is amazing birth control. My husband will be home in 2-3 weeks and he's made it very clear that he wants another baby, we agreed that we would not actively try, but also not prevent. After being asked why I didn't want another baby, I came to the conclusion that I do want another baby, I just don't want to know when I'm pregnant. I think about having another baby all the time, but my mind skips over the pregnancy, so I hope that one day I will create a post introducing my new healthy baby, that I delivered in my bathroom while taking a poop and at the end of my post it will say "I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant"


  1. LOL Stephanie,
    That is too funny. I don't think there is any way you won't know you are pregnant again. Your just too cute when you are pregnant.... Unless you gained about a billion pounds between the time you do get pregnant and now.

    I hope that the next time you are pregnant... when you are ready... that it will be so smooth and easy that it will seem like not being pregnant but you will be able to enjoy every minute of it! You deserve to have a nice easy pregnancy!

    :) Kristin

  2. haha Didn't we just sorta talk about this!! To funny. That is what my dh and I did, we didn't try, but we didn't try to prevent. It worked great and with the best timing, I wish the same for ya'll! I do hope that you can go a whole pregnancy without knowing, just because it is what you want, but sorry.. I don't think it'll happen! lol

  3. I did see that show and I had the same reaction. There was one woman who found out she was pregnant just minutes before having the baby. Upon reflection she realized that the sickness she had attributed to the flu was morning sickness; the weight gain was not depression and the dark blotches on her skin were not an allergy. DUH! LOL.

    I think the decision to try for another baby after what you have gone through is a decision that only you can make. Nobody should tell you when the time is right. Regardless of what others want, you are the one who will have to carry the baby and also deal with the fears and other emotions that come with having a baby after a loss.

    As you know, I am now expecting again, after losing our son in January. What made me decide to "go for it" is the fact that next year, I will be 40. I know that the risks associated with pregnancy go up significantly once you hit 40. Because of what happened with my son, I know that I am going to be a nervous wreck through this pregnancy, and I thought that if I waited too much longer, the added stress of being in that "risk group" would make it even worse.

    Also, my other children are a lot older than Vashon. If we waited too much longer they would be out of the house and wouldn't have a chance to bond with their sibling.

    If I were in my 20's I probably would have waited longer to try again, but time is a luxury I don't have anymore.

    So my wish for you, Stephanee, is that you make a decision that's right for you, that you are comfortable with!

  4. haha, you can always make me laugh! I don't know how a woman could not know they are pregnany either. Just sounds crazy to me. I will pray for a happy and healthy pregnancy when you do become pregnant. God will know when you are ready. Leave it to him. I think your decision to not actively try but not prevent is a good one. That is what we do and when it happens then it was meant to. Love and Hugs!

  5. I read the title & I can say with all the joking of the title IT DID HAPPEN TO ME !!!! My first child was a big surprise especially when I was told I could never carry a child. He is my special gift. I went to the ER for a bad backache & in a hr and a half I gave birth to a baby boy. Some people tell me there is no way but I know I never felt him & still had my period. It was God watching over us both. No prenatal care or anything he was sent for a reason I believe. That's why I have had a lot of trouble dealing with my miscarriages after carrying a baby and not knowing it was there. I still praise God and try not to ask why but know one day I will see my 2 angels.
    Back to you I hope you have more children and whenever God allows it to happen I pray that you have a healthy pregnancy.I think of you so often & wish only the best for you and your family. {{HUGS}} Prayers & :)

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  7. Tee hee. I have watched that show and wondered that myself... When I was pregnant with Kasey I knew 3 weeks after he was conceived... I too wish that I could skip the pregnancy (although I WILL enjoy every part of the next one!)and the worry that comes along with what we have experienced. I wish I too could say I didn't know I was pregnant took a poo and looked down and wow a baby.

  8. I love your posts!

    I know my loss was just very recent...but I feel so incomplete now that I am not pregnant. I just want to be pregnant again....and then I am scared of that too. Its a weird feeling...
    My sister and I make fun of that show all the time...and then I get mad because with absolutely no prenatal care and as they continued to drink...their babies were okay. Sigh.

  9. GIRL! I so feel the same way. 100%.

  10. I've seen that show several times!! It's crazy!!! It is hard to believe, isn't it!? That'd be nice to just go in and give birth and not have to worry 9 months but then I would miss things like the little kicks.

  11. I'm sitting here watching that show right now! So funny!!! I still don't understand how a woman can go a whole 9 months and never know she's pregnant!!! Well, if you want to "skip" the pregnancy I hope it happens for you! Lol!

  12. Just came across your blog from Once A Mother. Sorry for the loss of your beautiful boy and thank you for the laugh on this dreary Thursday. (((Hugs))) from a second-generation military brat (now civvy wife) and bereaved mother. Your photos from your pregnancy and with your husband and babe are just beautiful. Stunning.

  13. Girl...this post so takes me back! I remember saying, "I would rather have my next pregnancy behind me instead of in front of me!" And...I also have a recollection of wishing for a fast forward button often! Love to you...great post, girl. I think it will resonate with many!

  14. Hey girl, been thinking of you....I've so out of the online loop for quite a while. Hope things are going well!

  15. Stephanie--
    I don't even remember how I found your site--I actually came across your benefit site, which by the way sounds amazing. I great resource and very thoughtful of you.

    I don't really know what to say. But that I am immensely touched by your story and reading your posts. You have a beautiful family and you exude knowledge 100x beyond your years. Or maybe this is just knowledge that no one should have to know. Your persepctive on faith and God and the post on the book of Job all touch me. I have read a few books given to me since losing my son and some help, some don't. But what I have read on your blog is....inspiring, hopeful, encouraging, sad yet happy, DEEP, knowing, incredulous yet real, gosh--so many things.
    I just want to say you sound like an amazing young woman, an awesome mom, a fantastic wife..and so much more. I am so sorry that Vayden does not get to be down here on earth with you. I loved this post about not knowing your pregnant! I hope you get pregnant soon--I'm right there with you.