tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1813160611061244361.post2794579053566185457..comments2023-09-18T04:49:38.598-07:00Comments on Through My Mothers Eyes ...... Vayden's Story: It wasn't supposed to be this wayStephaniehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01117774478751383770noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1813160611061244361.post-83848537556084245182009-05-07T16:45:00.000-07:002009-05-07T16:45:00.000-07:00Your words are so raw...yet so true. You may feel...Your words are so raw...yet so true. You may feel that they don't make sense...although they do to every mother who has had to say good-bye so soon! So much to try to get your arms around. You don't have a time line...take your time. Ask! I feel like I threw fits at times!! I want you to know that I am praying for you. I am sooo sad that you have to do this!Coriehttp://obrienfamily2008.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1813160611061244361.post-42498860257589552402009-05-07T12:24:00.000-07:002009-05-07T12:24:00.000-07:00Hey Stephanee. Thanks for the comment. :)
I've tho...Hey Stephanee. Thanks for the comment. :)<br />I've thought of pregnancy differently since being told my Matthew didn't stand a chance. I cherished every kick and every pound I gained because it meant he was strong and growing...though I'm still gaining those pounds...and he's been out for awhile. :P<br />You and Vayden will be in my prayers. Miracles do happen, though just like prayers...they may not be revealed in a way we want to see it. From diagnosis, to birth, to dialysis and now as we journey closer to transplant, I have been taught something new each time. (most of the time I really didn't want to learn that way, but was later thankful...knowing that was the only way God could get through my thick skull!)<br />I will most definitely be checking back in on your blog and praying the Vayden has a peaceful and loving life...whether it be 10 minutes or 10 decades. Hugs to you!carebearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17035056284371717970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1813160611061244361.post-90834599261350621922009-05-04T11:22:00.000-07:002009-05-04T11:22:00.000-07:00Hi, just stumbled on your blog. I'm so very sorry ...Hi, just stumbled on your blog. I'm so very sorry for your heartache over your sweet boy. It's o.k. to be angry for a time... God is big enough to handle it! I'll be praying for you and your family.Trinityhttp://www.journeyofgriefandhealing.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1813160611061244361.post-41822081466102218602009-05-01T20:16:00.000-07:002009-05-01T20:16:00.000-07:00Our God is so good.Our God is so good.Pamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03564280817667162770noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1813160611061244361.post-56560698807739329312009-05-01T20:12:00.000-07:002009-05-01T20:12:00.000-07:00You are so, so right. It is not supposed to be thi...You are so, so right. It is not supposed to be this way. You are supposed to be anticipating a new beautiful life, not preparing yourself for loss. And yes, I know that anger. I still have it.<br />Oh that word...Fluke... such a painful, unfair state of being. I hear and feel everything you say Stephanie. How does a mommie prepare to say hello then good-bye?? And all of the things about pregnancy that some women find annoying, and complain about because they have no idea that these heartbreaking things can happen. I get very upset when I hear them complain as if so inconvenienced. I feel like telling them, "you don't know what fortune you have, be quiet and embrace every moment !" It's just so hard. Even before losing Devyn, I never complained about morning sickness, or gaining weight or all the many things others complained about because frankly I have always seen it as part of the miraculous journey to the most beautiful thing, a sweet baby. It may sound silly but after losing Devyn these things seem even more precious, than before. Am I strange for feeling this way? <br />I have to admit that my faith is very shaky after all of this, and I admire those who's faith they feel has gotten stronger because of this. You are a strong woman Stephanie, and this is by no means an easy path to be on. You are handling things with such grace. I thank you for your comments, and I am here to listen to you as well, whenever you need.Tears in Novemberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06324366434018703450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1813160611061244361.post-92167442786266362009-05-01T10:44:00.000-07:002009-05-01T10:44:00.000-07:00Hey Stephanee~Just wanted to check in and let you ...Hey Stephanee~Just wanted to check in and let you know that I have been thinking about you and Vayden. It's okay to be angry and feel that this isn't the way things were supposed to be. You can't be strong all the time and no one expects you to be. You are such a courageous and inspirational person to me, and Vayden's story has touched me in so many ways.I truly feel blessed to have known you and Vayden, in a way, as the two of you have given me perspective on my life and my boys. Thank you.<br />~babysuAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1813160611061244361.post-24327183791769453632009-05-01T07:08:00.000-07:002009-05-01T07:08:00.000-07:00You are a remarkable young woman. I am praying for...You are a remarkable young woman. I am praying for you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1813160611061244361.post-87883488265148390462009-04-30T16:05:00.000-07:002009-04-30T16:05:00.000-07:00Steph,
I'm so sorry you are going through this! I...Steph,<br /><br />I'm so sorry you are going through this! I know it starts to get really difficult the closer it gets. Our loving God is watching over you! He will be holding your hand the whole way through as He has been. Put your trust and complete faith in Him. I know it's hard and you have so many questions unanswered. Matthew has been a true blessing to us and I wouldn't be who I am right now if we didn't go through what we did. I will be here for you whenever you need to talk! 321-750-8354. Praying for you!!Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08948075313886830178noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1813160611061244361.post-41388099240758116292009-04-30T07:07:00.000-07:002009-04-30T07:07:00.000-07:00You're right...it wasn't.
I read your words and t...You're right...it wasn't.<br /><br />I read your words and they are all too familiar to me. I hate that anyone has to go through this. Your outlook on pregnancy totally changes when something like this happens. Like you said, stuff that seemed so bad really isn't that bad at all. And honestly, it can get annoying to her other moms complain about such trivial things. I was always thinking in my mind "you should be thankful that you get to keep your baby!" I had to give my baby to God, which in reality is the best thing you could ever ask for but you always want your children with you.<br /><br />It's hard to understand how any good can come of a situation like this. God can do great things through tragedy but you have to be willing to let Him do so. For instance, look at all the lives Carleigh touched! Look at the lives that Vayden has touched! Carleigh has done far more in her little life than I could ever do in my lifetime. I see the good God has done.<br /><br />It's ok to be angry. A normal response to what you are going through. But also an emotion to keep your eye on. It can destroy the things and people you love. Praying that God gives you some peace among the anger.Hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15431384515813384025noreply@blogger.com